How To Stop A Relationship Break Up, 3 Tips To Reconcilliation

By Renee Pullman

Is your relationship rocky, on the brink?  Do you want to save it?  There are things that you can do: it may not be the easiest thing you’ve ever done, however, if the two of you pull together it is possible to stop a relationship break up.

Here are three ideas to get you on the path to reconciliation:

1. Find things that you and your partner can agree on, stop just looking at what your partner may be doing wrong.  Fixating on a particular issue will not lead to a solution.  Look at what is good, but blame away, and work together to find solutions.
2. You’ve heard the saying, “walk a mile in my shoes (or moccasins): it means trying to put your self in the others shoes and seek to understand their point of view.  This doesn’t mean you have to agree on their position but rather that you try to see where they are coming from.  Your partner needs to feel understood and that they have a right to feel the things that they feel.  Failure to do this will cause your partner to become defensive and shutdown.  This is not a perfect process but making the effort to understand is one of the most important things that you can do for your relationship. 
3. Learn ways to communicate, often we don’t understand each other and we speak in a way that actually blocks the communication.  Take a step back and try to see what is happening in the situation, then come back and try to work together on a solution.It’s never too late to try and stop a relationship break up as long as both of you truly want to make things work and are willing to make some changes.  I know you hear it all the time, and that’s because it’s true, communication is the key to any good relationship and that is the place you have to start.  Learn to talk and listen instead of scream and hear.

You can stop a relationship breakup if you work at it with understanding.  Communications is vital, we often speak but are not heard.  This can happen because the background in our minds is different from our partners.  We come from different viewpoints and the words mean different things to us than they do to them.  Learn to understand this and when the one you love begins to argue, stop and figure out a different approach.

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