By Renee Pullman

If you have been dumped you are probably hurting really badly right now. Perhaps you’ve reached out to your Ex and only made matters worse. It is not your fault, no one has taught you how to get your ex to fall back in love. So you take a logical approach and try to sell them on why it is best to get back together, why the two of you belong together and all of the rest of the things that do not and will not work.

At the end of all that effort you learn that not only does your ex hate you, but now it is even worse. Perhaps they think of you as a sniveling idiot because of your efforts. It doesn’t have to be that way. Because you want your ex lover to fall back in love with you, it means that you have an ace in the hole. Because they fell in love with you before they can do it again and there are “heart strings” between the two of you that will help.

How do you make it happen? Because relationships are so important to us and because we are so emotionally invested anger is often the product. You have to dial that down, you also have to dial back any urge to beg them to take you back. If you’ve already been there and done that don’t worry as you get into the right strategy those things will handle themselves.

First, lets grab those heart strings, show them the person that you were when they fell in love with. Rediscover that person, begin to channel your old self when they are around.

Second, banish blame. There is so much of a tendency for us to blame others for things. We don’t want to take responsibility, we want to find someone to point the finger at. Perhaps it’s a learned response knowing that dad will punish us for breaking the window when he gets home. Could it be that such a juvenal response, programmed into you at a young age, is screwing up your life and relationship. Baggage from the past, not just from childhood can really mess with you unless you understand it and ferret it out. If you are serious about winning love and a relationship back then you need to work out these kinds of issues.

Will this plan make your ex fall head over heels for you again. As with anything in life, there is no guarantee. But this plan will give you the best chance of reconnecting with your ex.

Peel away and banish the things that your ex dislikes about you and uncover the person inside, the person they feel in love with. Grab the heart strings and go with it, win love back.

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Keri called Sam that night and told him that she never wanted to see him again.  She called him a number of unprintable names as well.

Of course, Sam felt bad about the whole situation.  He knew he had a lapse of judgment, but didn’t think that one evening of bad behavior should end a good relationship.

So, Sam jumped right in and tried to win Keri back.  But, as we will see, he did everything wrong.

First of all, when Keri called, he groveled.  Rather than apologizing and moving forward, he begged Keri to take him back.  She, of course, was in no mood to do so.  She was justifiably angry.’

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Then, he compounded the problem by pursuing her aggressively in the next few days.  She got more than a hundred texts from him in 6 days.  He called at least 3 times a day including once at 1 in the morning.  He sent flowers to her at work.

Then, a week later, completely desperate, he went and sang love songs under her window.  Her neighbors called the police.

Sam’s first problem was that he didn’t give Keri a chance to breathe.  She needed some space to decide whether to go on with the relationship.  And, her dumped boyfriend took that space away.

When nothing seemed to work, Sam decided on another tack.  He started seeing other girls and flaunting it in her face.

Keri had a friend named Robin who never seemed to be able to get a date.  Sam asked Robin out and she accepted.  Then, Sam called Keri and asked her where Robin would like to go on their date.  Sam thought that Keri would be jealous when she heard he was dating her friend.

But Keri was furious.  She felt that Sam was taking advantage of Robin to get back at her.  And, she felt Robin was selling her out.  Sam was making no headway here.

When Keri started dating a new guy, Sam did everything possible to disparage the boyfriend.  He tried to compare the new guy unfavorably to himself.

Unfortunately, by this time, Sam had burned all of his bridges.  Keri had moved on and didn’t want to have anything further to do with Sam.

The relationship didn’t have to end like this.  Keri could have forgiven Sam for his lapse at the party.  But, because Sam acted like an oaf afterwards, he lost the ability to get her back.  If you are a dumped boyfriend, don’t compound matters by being a Sam.

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