Is your relationship rocky, on the brink?  Do you want to save it?  There are things that you can do: it may not be the easiest thing you’ve ever done, however, if the two of you pull together it is possible to stop a relationship break up.

Here are three ideas to get you on the path to reconciliation:

1. Find things that you and your partner can agree on, stop just looking at what your partner may be doing wrong.  Fixating on a particular issue will not lead to a solution.  Look at what is good, but blame away, and work together to find solutions.
2. You’ve heard the saying, “walk a mile in my shoes (or moccasins): it means trying to put your self in the others shoes and seek to understand their point of view.  This doesn’t mean you have to agree on their position but rather that you try to see where they are coming from.  Your partner needs to feel understood and that they have a right to feel the things that they feel.  Failure to do this will cause your partner to become defensive and shutdown.  This is not a perfect process but making the effort to understand is one of the most important things that you can do for your relationship. 
3. Learn ways to communicate, often we don’t understand each other and we speak in a way that actually blocks the communication.  Take a step back and try to see what is happening in the situation, then come back and try to work together on a solution.It’s never too late to try and stop a relationship break up as long as both of you truly want to make things work and are willing to make some changes.  I know you hear it all the time, and that’s because it’s true, communication is the key to any good relationship and that is the place you have to start.  Learn to talk and listen instead of scream and hear.

You can stop a relationship breakup if you work at it with understanding.  Communications is vital, we often speak but are not heard.  This can happen because the background in our minds is different from our partners.  We come from different viewpoints and the words mean different things to us than they do to them.  Learn to understand this and when the one you love begins to argue, stop and figure out a different approach.

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Relationship breakup puts a lot of people through fear and misery. Some of the people going through these feelings have no one in the world to turn to, and this is why people suffer so hard from heartbreak in the first place. Dealing with break up pain all by yourself can seem impossible at first, but consider how many people deal with love and loss in their lives and survive to talk about it. You too will be able to get over what feels like a crippling break up, but only if you are willing to deal with heartbreak pain the right way, and the healthy way for that matter.

So why is the pain from a lost love break up so difficult? Because when dealing with a break up, it will seem as if you are the only one who has suffered the kind of pain you’re going through. It is important that you continue to try to heal rather than allowing yourself to give up on the situation. Dwelling on the painful split from your lover will not help you, so instead you should work on getting better and moving on, which will allow you to stop dealing with break up pain and start dealing with moving on and finding someone new, perhaps even someone that has a better dynamic with you.

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Okay, while ending a relationship is hardly at the top of anybody’s calendar, the fact is that when a relationship has gone sour, someone has to make the move to end it. The truth is that many relationships last long beyond the “expire by” date just because breaking up is hard to do.

Sometimes a break up happens in dramatic fashion with clothes being thrown out of a second story window.

Other times, the relationship just peters out until someone says “it’s caput.”

How do you go about ending a relationship so that neither party gets hurt?

You need to get clear on why you want to terminate the romance. The immediate reason that jumps into your mind may not be the real reason. Once you get clear, the next step in ending a relationship is to get honest. That means that in your discussion with your partner that you are true to yourself and to them.

Schedule a mutually convenient time for the breakup. In general, it is better to do it in person rather than over the phone, but if distance is an issue in the relationship, you should do it sooner than wait for a time you can get together.

Get into a state of compassion when ending the relationship. If you want to stay friends after the break up, you need to conclude the romantic ties with love and compassion.

Don’t put your partner on the defensive. Talk about the things you’ve learned and the memories you will cherish that have come from your love. Be present during the break up. Your partner may become very emotional during this time. You need to respond to their needs.

Don’t take anything personally when ending a relationship. Your partner may say things they don’t really mean. Let these words roll off of your back.

Your partner may need to meet with you more than once to conclude the relationship. Or, they may need space. Give your ex what they need to get through the transition time.

But don’t let them make you feel guilty. You’re ready to begin a new phase in your life and it will not include a romantic relationship with your ex. It is best if you retain a positive relationship of some sort with them, but if you are ending the relationship for the right reasons, it is best for both of you.

Should you ever consider reconnecting? Does ending a relationship always mean “the end, close the book?”

That is something you have to decide. Virtually all relationships can be saved if certain conditions are met. If you have the time and are willing to make the effort, you can get through this period as an even stronger couple.

However, if you are determined to walk away, it’s best to end a relationship with a clean break and move on.

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