Is your relationship rocky, on the brink?  Do you want to save it?  There are things that you can do: it may not be the easiest thing you’ve ever done, however, if the two of you pull together it is possible to stop a relationship break up.

Here are three ideas to get you on the path to reconciliation:

1. Find things that you and your partner can agree on, stop just looking at what your partner may be doing wrong.  Fixating on a particular issue will not lead to a solution.  Look at what is good, but blame away, and work together to find solutions.
2. You’ve heard the saying, “walk a mile in my shoes (or moccasins): it means trying to put your self in the others shoes and seek to understand their point of view.  This doesn’t mean you have to agree on their position but rather that you try to see where they are coming from.  Your partner needs to feel understood and that they have a right to feel the things that they feel.  Failure to do this will cause your partner to become defensive and shutdown.  This is not a perfect process but making the effort to understand is one of the most important things that you can do for your relationship. 
3. Learn ways to communicate, often we don’t understand each other and we speak in a way that actually blocks the communication.  Take a step back and try to see what is happening in the situation, then come back and try to work together on a solution.It’s never too late to try and stop a relationship break up as long as both of you truly want to make things work and are willing to make some changes.  I know you hear it all the time, and that’s because it’s true, communication is the key to any good relationship and that is the place you have to start.  Learn to talk and listen instead of scream and hear.

You can stop a relationship breakup if you work at it with understanding.  Communications is vital, we often speak but are not heard.  This can happen because the background in our minds is different from our partners.  We come from different viewpoints and the words mean different things to us than they do to them.  Learn to understand this and when the one you love begins to argue, stop and figure out a different approach.

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Keri called Sam that night and told him that she never wanted to see him again.  She called him a number of unprintable names as well.

Of course, Sam felt bad about the whole situation.  He knew he had a lapse of judgment, but didn’t think that one evening of bad behavior should end a good relationship.

So, Sam jumped right in and tried to win Keri back.  But, as we will see, he did everything wrong.

First of all, when Keri called, he groveled.  Rather than apologizing and moving forward, he begged Keri to take him back.  She, of course, was in no mood to do so.  She was justifiably angry.’

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Then, he compounded the problem by pursuing her aggressively in the next few days.  She got more than a hundred texts from him in 6 days.  He called at least 3 times a day including once at 1 in the morning.  He sent flowers to her at work.

Then, a week later, completely desperate, he went and sang love songs under her window.  Her neighbors called the police.

Sam’s first problem was that he didn’t give Keri a chance to breathe.  She needed some space to decide whether to go on with the relationship.  And, her dumped boyfriend took that space away.

When nothing seemed to work, Sam decided on another tack.  He started seeing other girls and flaunting it in her face.

Keri had a friend named Robin who never seemed to be able to get a date.  Sam asked Robin out and she accepted.  Then, Sam called Keri and asked her where Robin would like to go on their date.  Sam thought that Keri would be jealous when she heard he was dating her friend.

But Keri was furious.  She felt that Sam was taking advantage of Robin to get back at her.  And, she felt Robin was selling her out.  Sam was making no headway here.

When Keri started dating a new guy, Sam did everything possible to disparage the boyfriend.  He tried to compare the new guy unfavorably to himself.

Unfortunately, by this time, Sam had burned all of his bridges.  Keri had moved on and didn’t want to have anything further to do with Sam.

The relationship didn’t have to end like this.  Keri could have forgiven Sam for his lapse at the party.  But, because Sam acted like an oaf afterwards, he lost the ability to get her back.  If you are a dumped boyfriend, don’t compound matters by being a Sam.

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Many people who have faced divorce have been able to do something about it. Good relationship advice and introspection can go a long way toward getting things turned around.

Sometimes you need to use counter intuitive techniques and sometimes common sense. For example, you may recall that if you skid while driving your car that you should turn into the skid. This is important because while you are skidding every bit of you will want to turn the opposite way – which will make the problem worse.

As with recovering from a skid, many aspects of trying to recover your relationship, your marriage requires a counter-intuitive approach. For example – it may be necessary to cut off communication for a time to give your spouse or partner time to miss you and forget why your relationship is in crisis.

There are more techniques in the free report you can get at:
www.TheMagicOfMakingUpFast.com

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